Resume & Application Letter

Greetings! The pictures below consist of my resume and application letter. Please feel free to give your most critical comments! :P For my application letter, some parts are underlined in red as it seems weird to me, but I'm not quite sure how to edit it to a better form. I will be extremely grateful if you can help me rectify the errors (if there are any)!

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Resolving Interpersonal Conflict

The person whom I have the most fights with is my mother. I believe it is because my mother is a housewife, and we see each other too much. Hence the phrase ‘Absence makes the heart grow fonder’ would apply to us quite aptly.

The frequency of fighting has lessened since, and most of the reasons of past fights have been forgotten, but a topic that we used to fight about most is about the television. Yes. It is as ridiculous as it sounds. We fought because of the selection of television programmes.

Since I am usually in the living room, I would promptly switch on the television and grab the remote control to change the channel to the one that I desire to watch first.

Trigger for the conflict: My mother wanted to watch another channel at the same time, but I refused to relent because I was the one that got to the remote control first. Being rather hot-headed, I responded impudently that offended her even further.

In the end, my mother got to watch the programme that she wanted to and I ‘earned’ a cold war from fighting with her about the issue.

Feelings generated: Anger and Resentment from both sides. To me, watching a television programme is considered as entertainment for me after hitting the books. For my mother, it is a similar situation.

What I have learnt:

1.     Choose my battles wisely by thinking about the consequences. Fighting over every single issue would result in deteriorating the relationship of the individuals involved. If it’s not such a serious issue, I should not push forward with my point aggressively.

2.     Compromising is key. Nowadays, if my mother wants to watch a certain programme that clashes with mine, I'll wait for the re-run or watch it online.

3.     Resolving the conflict not only mends the rift between two individuals, it also makes the people around us happier. For example, when two people in the family are having a conflict, it would create a tense atmosphere in the air, affecting the moods of others in the family. This is because everyone is trying to tip-toe around those involved and avoid from being drawn into the conflict.

4.     Empathy is important in understanding how to avoid conflicts. In this case, we failed to understand each other’s stand and hence ended up quarrelling and having a cold war.

5.     Resist from knee-jerk reactions, such as responding rudely to someone you are having a conflict with. As tempting it may sound, it would only end up driving a deeper wedge between the parties involved.

One thing I’m not so sure about:

Usually, when I have a conflict with anyone, I am always the one that takes the initiative to mend rifts, even if I am not the one that is at blame entirely. For example, as most of my conflicts with people result in ‘cold wars’, I will be the one that speaks to the other party first.

               

Sometimes, it seems like I am the one that’s treasuring the relationship more. What would you do if you were in my place?

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